FAMISHED—ON FOOD, SEX, AND GROWING UP AS A GOOD GIRL by Anna Rollins: Book Review by Esther Nelson, part 2

Part 1 was posted yesterday.

MARRIAGE

“He looked at me without judgment.  With him, I didn’t feel the need to perform.”  Both her future husband (first year medical resident) and she (now studying applied linguistics) disliked fundamentalism’s legalism, but they were still committed to Christianity.  Both were “devoted to [sexual] abstinence.”  Sex did not even happen on their wedding night, but when it did, it hurt.  For years, the pain continued.  Vaginismus.  “I didn’t know there was a name for it.  I didn’t know that…it was twice as common for those who had grown up in religiously conservative households.”  It took years to get through the pain.  “It’s not until we can believe that our bodies are inherently good and worthy of pleasure and joy that we can begin to heal.”

A new pastor arrived at Rollins’ church armed with Christian nationalist ideas and fervor.  It didn’t set right with her.  She was moving toward progressive positions beginning with “my body, my choice.”  She adds, “If there’s anything someone who’s struggled with an eating disorder understands, it’s the concept of bodily autonomy.”  She began to research the Reformers beginning with Martin Luther who said this about women:  “If women become tired, even die, it does not matter.  Let them die in childbirth.  That’s what they are there for.”  Rollins’ husband pushes back, though, quoting Scripture—“there is no male or female…we are all unified in Christ.” Why then, Rollins wonders, does sexism run rampant in the church?

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The Solace of Another Woman’s Story by Yvonne Augustine

This week, I read an excellent, gripping, poignant blog post by Feminist Philosopher Leanne Dedrick entitled “Things That Make Me Cry: The Practice of Unbelief.” The purpose of the piece was Leanne’s desire to address a misperception by some non-atheists that atheists are devoid of emotion, violently hostile to anything associated with faith, and unable to deal honestly with the Divine. She also corrects the erroneous assumption that atheists seek to “hide from, or purposefully turn […] away from, the ‘saving grace’ of religion.” In the post, she wrote specifically about her own journey from ultra-conservative Christianity to atheism. Continue reading “The Solace of Another Woman’s Story by Yvonne Augustine”