Label or Be Labelled Part 1: On the absence of meaningful personal identifiers

This triptych post is inspired by reading Xochitl Alvizo’s article Human, Just Human that appeared on August 16, 2023. I read it during my holiday as expat back in my birth country The Netherlands. Thank you, Xochitl, for your thorough and inclusive essay, which spurred on some deep reflections regarding my own journey with identity, touched on some uncomfortable feelings, and provided much food for conversation with friends as well.

Naming or Labelling?

Questions around identity and belonging are never far for me. I moved many times between different countries, languages, professional disciplines, personal development practices and spiritualities. I like to reflect on things deeply and am aware of societal trends. I like to learn about other views and lifestyles. I feel connected to humanity on a soul-level, yet not so much on a level of sub-culture identities. I am interested in cultivating freedom for each of us, to fully be home in ourselves, express our unique blueprint, and stand firmly, joyfully, and unapologetically in our power, in the vibrant stream of our life force energy.

This is, I’m sure, what Xochitl advocates. Yet what she describes as the ‘power of naming’ feels more like ‘labelling’ to me. Labelling is what I do with my boxes and jars, so I know what is in it. “This is the box with office supplies, that is the jar with Vervain.” I love my little label printer, and always feel a sense of peace and accomplishment when my labelling is up to date. 

However, for me as a person it is not that easy. There aren’t any ‘labels’ I naturally identify with that feel empowering. I have a fairly mainstream personal identity (see below), and nothing specific to ‘come out’ with. Yet, the current trend where everyone self-identifies and proudly claims membership of a minority group, pressures me as well to find a label for the ‘jar’ that contains my Eline-Essence.

Because without a label, you are invisible nowadays. Your voice doesn’t count, and in worse case scenarios, you are lumped in with the bad guys. 

Hence, I question whether labelling (or naming) always gives us sovereignty and control over our body, and helps us “live out our humanity,” as Xochitl so eloquently poses. For me, it is closer to the opposite. Without a label, I feel muted and silenced. The absence of an empowering identifier risks dislocation, and exile, and even a certain tyranny. 

Personal Identity

It is a vulnerable place, not being a revolutionary who fights for specific equal rights. It’s not “sexy” to be a middle-aged, heterosexual, white woman who lived her adult life on a shoestring and who is generally happy in her own skin most of the time. There seems to be no ‘story’ there. On the contrary, without belonging to a meaningful category, I either become invisible, or I’m defaulted to the camp of colonialists, neo-liberalists, and unwitting oppressors. Not having a label assumes blind ignorance and white privilege.

My response is to desperately search for a meaningful ‘participation ticket’ to modern life. Only then, people might consider I too might have something to contribute, a right to join the debate, or have a chance for my work to be funded (to be discussed in Part 2). 

So, I consider things that might set me apart and make me different. 

• Would doing a DNA test help to discover an ethnic lineage that I have some kinship with? As Carol Christ described more than a decade ago, most of us belong to more than one ethnic group.
• If being a woman in a still male oriented society isn’t enough, what about the fact that as introvert person with a Highly Sensitive Personality (HSP) it’s debilitating to bear public spaces dominated by flickering lights, music and loud noises, or fast games like ping pong games in airport lounge?
• Might I identify with being an AS- or IBS-patient,* and join the legions of #chronicpainwarriors (with many sub-categories for this hashtag!), who will recognise chronic pain and low energy levels as a form of invisible disability?
• Or perhaps I should profile myself as ectopic pregnancy survivor who literally danced close to death’s door?

Zooming in on Similarities or Differences?

For me the above exercise of building my identity around a random life experience is not empowering, and I question whether looking for things that make us different is really is the way to go.

One of my teachers jokingly calls this the ‘poor-sick-miserable-me-place’, in which we zoom in on lack, absence or powerlessness. Everyone knows that place inside, where we feel we aren’t good enough, we’re too different and don’t belong. Yes, also the people ‘supposedly’ on the other side of wherever we find ourselves, know that place in the quiet of their own being.

So I complete this first part with a question: if all of us recognise apparent powerlessness, lack of self-worth, belonging or confused identity, doesn’t that lose its relevance as identifier? Isn’t it more empowering to look for similarities and shared humanity rather than for otherness? Indeed, to be Human, Just Human as Xochitl pondered?

In Part 2 of this essay (which will appear on October 13th), I’ll continue with some thoughts on professional and spiritual identity.

Until then!

Footnote

*) AS = Ankylosing Spondylitis, an auto-immune condition on the rheumatoid spectrum; IBS = Irritable Bowel Syndrome, neither of which are a laugh, as people who recognise those abbreviations will know! 

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Bio

She completed her PhD in dance anthropology at Roehampton University, trained in depth with the Scandinavian Centre for Shamanic Studies and the School of Movement Medicine. Eline worked at the Centre for Dance Research (C-DaRE) at Coventry University for five years, where she created a Somatics Toolkit for Ethnographers, and pioneered soulful academic pedagogy. Her recent book Dancing in the Muddy Temple: A Moving Spirituality of Land and Body was well received as a unique blend of theory and practice and a medicine for our times. 

She is now a full-time change-maker and facilitates deep transformation through coaching and courses both online and in person. Her approach The Way of the Wild Soul offers a set of embodied, creative, and spiritual tools to re-connect with inner strength and navigate life’s challenges with confidence. 

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