Natural Ceremony, by Molly Remer


This morning,
I walked around the field
and discovered
three soft white breast feathers
of an unknown bird,
two earthstar mushrooms,
sinking quietly back into the soil,
one tiny snail shell,
curled in spiral perfection,
and the fire of my own spirit
burning in my belly,
rekindled by elemental magic
of the everyday kind,
the small and precious gifts
of an ordinary day.

Every January, we rent a house on Dauphin Island and spend the month at the beach with our kids. Usually, we pack our business along with us and work from the rental house, though this year my sister kept it running from our home studio in Missouri instead. My husband describes this month away as the “weekend of the year,” and this is, in fact, how it feels, except for unlike most normal weekends, we walk five miles by 8:30 a.m. each morning. We joke that this is one of the best ways to know we’re on “vacation.” During one month of walking, we will log more than 300,000 steps together, this time away from home allowing us to pare back the layers of to-dos that build up each year, to re-prioritize our goals, to re-sync ourselves with what we most value, and to breathe deeply back into ourselves again—our hearts, our hopes, our dreams—after the hectic holiday season. Since we are self-employed, we never wake to an alarm clock at home, but while on our sojourn away, always motivated by the prospect of finding good shells, we set the alarm for 5:00 a.m., rising to the voice of Kellianna singing “I Walk with the Goddess” as we set off in the darkness to the uninhabited beach down the road. This year, due to hurricane damage and the resultant road work and beach restoration work in progress, the only way to reach our favorite walking spot is to rise before the road crews do and get out and back before the access road is closed to traffic for the work day.

We walk before dawn, our faces glimmering palely beneath a full moon. Our shell finding has been slender on this trip, the beach often swept clean by waves, but on this day, lit only by full moonlight, I finally catch sight of a big brown moon snail shell, half-buried in the sand. My favorite type of shell and, discovered on a full moon, no less! My husband’s foot comes down upon it as I grab his arm to stop him, but then I seize it with glee, undamaged and smooth in my hand. Though I have previously written that I expect no reward for devotion, sometimes it is, in fact, delightful to receive a reward anyway, especially on a dark beach with only moonlight as my guide. We spot two glowing eyes a few feet away and a fox keeps pace with us, pausing to sit and watch as we make our steady way along the shore. The sky lightens to rainbow stripes as the first flares of dawn begin to glow with eastern fire. I stand with my arms extended, the fingertips of one hand reaching for the moon while the other hand reaches for the sun, the waves lapping at the shore, the wind at my back. I feel held, suspended in eternity, small and rapturous, balanced at a centerpoint of time, inhabiting the liminal, poised within a living strip of space between land and sea, earth and sky, wind and sand, dawn and dusk, motion and stillness. Behind me, the fox moves swiftly away across the sand under a rainbow sky. 

I reflect as I continue to walk, murmuring the Charge of the Goddess below the moon, that these are my favorite kinds of rituals, the most powerful kinds of ceremonies, the truest expression of magic in my life and days.

On the winter solstice this past year, I carried a blanket out to the field in front of our house. I brought along my Womanrunes cards so I could do an annual oracle card layout for the year. I carried my journals and my planner and some of our small goddess figurines. Rather than sit on the blanket and dream about the year to come, busily scribbling notes and ideas in my planners as I had envisioned, instead I lie flat on my back on gazing at the sky. I became aware as I was lying there, breath slow in my belly, that I could see the moon on my right hand side and I could see the sun getting closer to setting on my left hand side. Then, I became aware that the birds were at my feet at our bird feeder by the studio building. Next, I became I aware of the cedar trees above my head, at the far side of the field. Lying there, feeling the earth beneath me, the sensation struck: I’m surrounded by the elements. I’m surrounded by all these aspects of magic, right now, no elaborate solstice ritual required. Though I made sun bread with my children and we held our traditional candle lit winter solstice ceremony and spiral walk, these moments lying on my back in the field were my ritual, my ceremony, the fullest expression of a living spirituality for me. Magic need not need to be fancier or more elaborate or more planned out than this, I think. It can mean lying on your back in a field and feeling the presence of the living elements around you, carrying you, holding you, supporting, nourishing, restoring, revitalizing, and, in a way, rebirthing you into awareness.

When I rose from my blanket to work on my plans, I noticed the way the rapidly setting sun was peeking through the trees and I decided to take a picture of one of my goddesses there with the last rays of the solstice sun shining behind her. As I squatted down to take the picture, I saw that one of the sunrays was extending through the trees in such a way that it was literally pointing exactly at my blanket, right at my little pile of books and my little plans, an affirmation of sorts: this is where you need to be, this is what you need to be doing. Since it was the Winter Solstice, of course this ray of light reminded me of light coming through Stonehenge and striking the exact right point, and it thrilled me to know that if I hadn’t decided to be outside exactly at this exact moment with the sun at this position, I never would have seen the ray of light illuminating my blanket. I’m not suggesting that the sun did that for me, it was rather that I allowed myself to witness what was already there, as if the ceremony was in place, it was unfolding, it was taking place, whether I was going to step into it or not, whether I was going to notice it or not, whether I was even aware of it or not. While this may not sound like a ceremony or a ritual in the way that many people describe ceremony and ritual, for me, it was one of the most powerful rituals I experienced that year.

Ceremonies of earth and being are unfolding around us all the time and we can either be present for them or not.

I could not have planned or designed that solstice or the full moon, fox-accompanied beach walk. I could not have planned or designed these rituals of living. I stepped out into the world instead and saw what ceremony was already underway, and then took part in it. Perhaps this sounds too simple or too small. There are many books with plans and outlines, ceremonies and correspondences, the right colors of candle and the right invocations to choose. And, those things are all wonderful too. I love setting up a fulfilling ritual space and creating a ritual atmosphere for people. I love candles and singing and choosing just the right words. I write today to remind us that there are many rituals of the everyday, there are many ceremonies of everyday magic, natural magic, that are already unfolding around you. I invite you to consider stepping into them and receiving them as a gift rather than trying to harness the elements or shape the setting to your own will. I encourage you to savor and see the unplanned, small magics of living unfold as they will. These elements of the holy, these sacred sites, can be alive, within you, beneath your feet, and around you every day, waiting (or not waiting) for you to notice that they’re here, carrying you along.

May you celebrate, savor, and sink into the magic of your life right where you are.

Sometimes,
the world creates
ceremonies for us
and we just have
to show up
for them.

 



Categories: Earth-based spirituality, Goddess, Goddess Spirituality, Mother Earth, Ritual, Sacred Space, Seasons, Winter Solstice

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18 replies

  1. Reading this somehow helps prepare me for approaching Ash Wednesday and the Lenten season before Easter. A beautiful reminder to be present to the natural rituals and gifts all around us. Thank you for this. Dawn

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  2. Thank you so much for this rich text full of solace… It helps me remember I’m not alone! Thank you for honouring the silence, the land, the goddess… I particularly liked your line “I could not have planned or designed these rituals of living. I stepped out into the world instead and saw what ceremony was already underway, and then took part in it. ” Yes Yes Yes!!! Eline

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  3. funny … Molly I had just been talking to my partner before reading this, about ceremonies that had arranged themselves. There was one on the New Moon in 2000 when my now partner and I bumped into each other and were part of a most auspicious ceremony that began with waiting and sitting outside with view of the fine sliver of Moon. We had no idea really that something new was indeed beginning there. We had not arranged any of it, but there was a smoking, water blessing, toning and spiral that we were led into in this large group.

    Then another was when 2 friends had not been able to make it to the Lammas ceremony I had facilitated (2015) and I left the altar more or less set up for us to do something together on the following Monday. Before they arrived the ashes of my first born arrived by post (long story), so I feel that he arranged his own ceremony, with three mothers to greet him.

    This is a little different from all that you are saying here but similar in some strands, of knowing the sentient Cosmos present in everyday, noticing Her presence, how She speaks.

    Your morning walks sound Wonderful. We love to go to the ocean at Full Moon when we can, to see Her rise over the sea as Sun sets in the West. Last Sunday after Lammas ceremony the evening before (Southern Hemisphere) I woke too early (I thought), but remembered that the Old Moon must have been up in the Eastern sky, and I so enjoy to see Her in this phase when I can. I went out and enjoyed Her waxing Dark, and felt it as part of Lammas ceremony. A little later I went out again but the clouds had come over. It was just a moment of placing myself as you say.

    Thank you
    Blissings
    Glenys

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  4. “there are many ceremonies of everyday magic, natural magic, that are already unfolding around you. I invite you to consider stepping into them and receiving them as a gift rather than trying to harness the elements or shape the setting to your own will.”
    I wonder why we seem to resist putting ourselves in the role of receiver… Your article demonstrates beautifully what happens when we don’t… Nature is always waiting for us to show up, and S/he has an infinite amount of surprises waiting… You allowed yourself to participate.
    By the way, there is something about that liminal pre-dawn hour – For four years I got up an hour before sunrise to walk to the river just to put myself in her hands before a too intense sun rose to set fire to the earth – Now that I am home I stay in during the winter and walk before dawn when the weather is mild. Great article!

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  5. Thanks for this great post, Molly! I love nature rituals! Every morning when I feed the squirrels and birds I sing a song of gratitude and the birds and squirrels come when they hear me singing. As I sing I touch the earth then stretch one arm to the sun, then I turn and sing to the trees and the water. This is a simple ritual that I have developed over time, but the coolest part for me is just watching the birds and squirrels come and eat.

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  6. YES!

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  7. Molly,
    Thank you for writing this.
    It expanded my sense of possibility.
    I loved the line in the poem about ordinary days.
    I loved the concept of Devotion.

    Not to mention taking a month off! In January.

    I like it that you wake at dawn to walk
    You wake to the goddess singing

    All this expanded my imagination.

    Lois

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  8. Thank you, Molly, for this beautiful post. “The small and precious gifts of an ordinary day,” these are the things that light up my life, everyday, whether they feel like a ritual or not. Being attentive to our lives and living them with our eyes, ears, noses, tongues, and skin alive to the world makes all the difference for me. I’ll be looking for those small rituals that are happening at every moment now that you have named them for me. Thank you!

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  9. Molly, this beautiful and inspiring. Thank you.

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