Implausible, Impossible Hope by Natalie Weaver


With the single exception of a weak moment in my oldest son’s kindergarten year, during which time the grade school manipulated parents into fundraising schemes by dangling socially advantageous perks (such as a reward trip to a water park) for only those children whose parents participated at a high level in the initiatives, I have never subscribed to any magazines.  Nevertheless, I continue to believe, on some core level, that Ed McMahon is even now driving down the street toward me in the white Publisher’s Clearing House van with a check for one million dollars.  The fact that Ed is long deceased seems to have no bearing on my conviction that the great Miracle, complete with balloons and a camera crew, is blazing toward me and just around the corner.  I never play the lottery, and I actually managed to go to Las Vegas once without gambling a single dollar, yet I feel almost daily that some Jackpot Jeep Bonanza Giveaway has my name all over it.

My optimism, if that it be, is not rooted in experience.  For, the truth is, I have never won a raffle prize, a door prize, or even a table center piece at the end of a banquet.  My one “win” in a history of great expectations was a jar of Ragu Spaghetti Sauce during a game of Bingo.  I cannot imagine now where or why I was in a position to win that grocery item, but I have a keen memory of walking up an aisle between rows of peopled folding tables and chairs, where I retrieved my award, only to drop it (perhaps because it was a prize of such seeming gravitas).  The thing rolled under the folding tables for what seemed like miles while I pitifully chased after it on my knees.  I was amazed that it hadn’t broken on impact, and when I finally caught up with it, I clung to it as might a mother, clutching her newborn after having snagged it up unawares from the path of a charging boar. I loved that jar of sauce.  Though we never ate it, it tasted of possibility and promise.

These days, I open my email, and I find myself waiting for the good news.  It mostly isn’t there.  In fact, it is sadly nearly the opposite.  The same thing happens when the real mail comes.  I hear the stuff drop in the box, and I go with some strange anticipation that today will be the day that the Marvel is going to happen.  Instead I get bills, credit card applications, church newsletters, stuff still addressed to my deceased father-in-law, and catalogs that have a limited assortment of “personal care items” wedged in the middle pages between pictures of costume-like women’s clothing.

I have to ask myself, “what do you think is going to happen?”

Now, dear friend, before you get too alarmed, I am not so far gone as to actually think anything is going to happen.  Although, on account of an interpretive misunderstanding, I once answered “yes” on a personality inventory to the question of whether I see things that other people do not see, I assure the concerned reader that I do not hallucinate.  Despite all of my intellectual lazinesses and extravagances, I am of frustratingly sound mind.  This fact makes all the more relevant the question of why I keep that little spark of hope, or rather, why it keeps me.  An old priest friend, having been asked how he was, answered me that he was basically depressed as all rational people should be.  I understood him; I even agreed with him.  Nevertheless, I felt excited the next morning when I saw the wet grass.

This condition of mine, and I do think of it as a condition, is a spiritual problem.  It is a problem because it does not usually accord with experience.  Moreover, it doesn’t necessarily make a person feel good.  In fact, in my case, it can cause deep melancholy when, for example, I have been so consistently certain that today will be lovely, yet by the end of the week the evidence has mounted in the other direction.  I find myself praying not that God will do something or even that I will be able to do something but that God will simply be God or, more modestly, that Good will simply be Good.  I feel like such a confusedly hopeful prayer is akin to an ingredient in the fine chef’s kitchen, being simmered away until it has been reduced to its mere essence.  Then alone it can be used.  I am not sure whether that kind of hope is a pittance of a condolence or a giant achievement of cosmic proportion.  I sit with this thought since on it seems to hinge a great portion of the answer to questions of meaning, purpose, and value.

This summer term, I have been teaching a course on ministry and spirituality.  I crafted a course around the investigation into joy because I wondered in earnest whether the students felt such a thing as joy in their work as ministers.  I assigned my students large chunks of time each week to practice joy in whatever manner such a task made sense to each person.  I asked them to keep a log of their journey, to dialogue about it, and to relate it to materials we read.  The conversation became so deep at points that we nearly forgot our leaping point, but one thing resonated throughout each person’s experience.  Joy was the other way of describing longing, and longing was aimed toward and rooted in something much more foundational than any thing or person or finite experience in the creaturely life.  Joy was the self’s alertness to the great Miracle, ephemeral and non-derivative, rushing to each of us and just around the corner.  And, this, this insight here, for me, was and shows itself to me to be the true beginning of a genuine faith.

your little dove came today

my name carried on its wings

she found me in bed making

the loveliest reception in lace

and pink and fine dark ink

inscribed in cotton pressed

she carried me to Venice

just to learn your preferences

and it is my intent to say

I went, my God, I went

and all I had I spent was but

a feather’s worth of courage

 

Natalie Kertes Weaver, Ph.D.is Chair and Professor of Religious Studies at Ursuline College in Pepper Pike, Ohio. Natalie’s academic books includeMarriage and Family: A Christian Theological Foundation (Anselm, 2009); Christian Thought and Practice: A Primer (Anselm, 2012); and The Theology of Suffering and Death: An Introduction for Caregivers (Routledge, 2013)Natalie’s most recent book is Made in the Image of God: Intersex and the Revisioning of Theological Anthropology (Wipf & Stock, 2014).  Natalie has also authored two art books: Interior Design: Rooms of a Half-Life and Baby’s First Latin.  Natalie’s areas of interest and expertise include: feminist theology; theology of suffering; theology of the family; religion and violence; and (inter)sex and theology.  Natalie is a married mother of two sons, Valentine and Nathan.  For pleasure, Natalie studies classical Hebrew, poetry, piano, and voice.

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  1. Great writing, very funny, enjoyed and can relate .. but after many years of ‘work’ (most definitely still in progress), I (most respectfully) disagree with your last sentence: “Joy was the self’s alertness to the great Miracle, ephemeral and non-derivative, rushing to each of us and just around the corner.”
    No, no, no, no!! the ever elusive Joy shows up when you are firmly planted in the now. At least for me, I have been able to find it when I forget whatever may be around the corner, good or bad and fully, wholly immerse myself in the experience I am living in: an incredible women’s circle with song, love, acceptance, laughter, a summer’s day listening to the bird’s song, pretending I am a tree while watching the light reflect on the river …. when I can stop thinking of what lies ahead, that is when I am able to find Her. <3

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  2. I agree with Karen that we are in the “now”, and this is where I try to consistently live. I also acknowledge my past and it’s influence on my present, as well as my future with an amusing idea that I just might win a lottery. Playing with the idea of having a few million dollars and how I would use it tells me a lot about where my heart is right now.

    I had a lot of smiles reading your post Natalie – as I look forward to my first cup of coffee which is just around the corner! ;-)

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  3. Beautiful post, Natalie! You describe a condition I immediately recognize but have never articulated. Thank you! I love your poem. Wishing you joy!

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  4. Like you I often have this tiny glimmer that life will bring a promise that doesn’t materialize… and then comes the sadness…

    But I begin each day with a five minute walk to the river to watch the sunrise and to listen to whoever happens to be singing in the trees. And this is when I experience that joy.

    “Joy was (is) the self’s alertness to the great Miracle, ephemeral and non-derivative, rushing to each of us and just around the corner” you say.

    And it is about the self being wide awake to wonder!

    Lovely essay Natalie.

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  5. I think an assignment to practice joy is one of the best gifts you could ever give your students. These days, especially, as our democracy turns into a kakistocracy, we need to set some time as often as possible to practice joy.

    I gambled once. I won $1.41. I still have the voucher, which I never cashed in.

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    • Delightful post today, thanks Natalie. I absolutely love where you say “my optimism, if that it be, is not rooted in experience.”

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  6. What a beautifully wrought essay, Natalie. I love your writing. Today I really enjoyed all your examples of waiting for Ed McMahon and other times you waited for the Miracle. I think we all could relate and laugh a little at ourselves. But as you wrote, this type of hope is a problem. It often doesn’t accord with reality and as a result, it can cause depression. In this Christo-centric culture, where of course we’re all unconsciously waiting for our future place in heaven, delayed gratification and its future orientation are second-nature. But as you admit, they often lead to melancholy. For me the question raised by you essay is why this should be.

    I think Karen hit the nail on the head: that joy comes to us only when we’re firmly planted in the now. I would add that when my life is so future-oriented that I don’t experience the present, I’m missing out on my life, because the only time I actually have is now. I’m not a Buddhist, but I’ve been taking a class entitled “Awakening Joy,” created by James Baraz, who is a Buddhist. I’ve found it useful, because so much of my work life right now is future-oriented (promoting and organizing future workshops and classes about my new book _The World is Your Oracle_). The exercises in this class bring me back to the joy I’m experiencing right now in the moment. As a result, I’m much more present to my life.

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  7. I so appreciate everyone’s comments, especially those who note that joy is best found in the present moment as opposed to heavenly hopes of things to come. Because I value this critique, I want to clarify one thing about my post here, which is that the disposition of hopeful anticipation I describe is not ultimately about the future. It is about the self’s present attitudinal openness to the ongoing surprise of experience. The sense of longing I describe is less about future experience than it is about the internal delight that comes from looking with fresh eyes at the landscape and feeling excitedly vulnerable to whatever is about to happen, right here, right now.

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    • I went for a walk in the woods today and felt the tension you are hinting at (at least I think you are in terms of describing longing). I felt a lot of joy in each sight and sound around me, but there was this pull telling me that if I just walked a little further or listened more carefully, something truly incredible was probably waiting to be seen. Oh, and I once won an entire basket of chocolate which was about as good as it gets :)

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