Re-imagining the Ritual of Communion by Xochitl Alvizo

I remember the words so clearly: “I know what it’s like to have my body broken, I know what it’s like to have my blood spilt. I won’t celebrate anyone else’s broken body or spilt blood, and I don’t want anyone doing that on my behalf.” Sitting in the pew next to me, my friend spoke her truth in a soft and tentative, but somehow still firm, voice. She then slumped in her seat and folded up her legs, hugging them against her body. While everyone else got up to take communion, I stayed in place beside her.

There was a period of time in my life when I was not willing to participate in communion. My friend’s words stayed with me, transforming the communion table from one of hospitality to one of violence. “Celebrating” communion didn’t feel celebratory anymore. I chose not to take communion for several years. I let my friend’s words guide and deepen my reflection on the practice of communion—especially in light of the trauma suffered by all too many bodies.

During my years of abstaining from communion, I was also part of a collective effort to start a new church (which I’ve written about before here). A group of friends and I had become regulars at our local pub, where we gathered each week for its Friday fish-and-chips special. It was there, during our informal, though regular, weekly gathering, that our imaginations started sparking over French fries and beer.

Collectively, we started dreaming about a church where we could experience the sense of “at-home-ness” that we felt with one another at the pub. We wanted to create a community marked by genuine openness, where nothing was off limits, where there were no pretensions or expectations of appropriately “churchly” behavior, where we could bring our whole selves—which included not only our sexualities, feminisms, and hopes for good news, but also the truths of the pains and hurts that the church had caused some of us.

It was there, with this mixed group of friends, that I started to reimagine my participation in communion. Doing what every nerd researcher does first, I began to gather data. The members of our little group, which included a handful of seminary students, were well aware of each other’s varying views on communion. We knew of each other’s mixed experiences with it, as well. We initially felt at a loss when trying to determine how (or even whether) to incorporate communion into the gathering time as we imagined church anew.

Fortunately, our weekly fish-and-chips gatherings, with their passionate debates and discussions, had encouraged us to develop open and conversational ways of exploring our various ideas about church and Christianity. When the time came to sort out how we might practice communion together, we were aware of the tensions that existed in our views. In an effort to deepen our reflection, we decided to gather additional information for individual and collective reflection. Each of us conducted informational interviews among our respective circles of people. We made audio recordings or took written notes as we interviewed our friends and family members about their understandings of, and experiences with, communion. If interviewees indicated that communion held little or no significance for them, we asked why. We then followed up by asking whether there was anything that would make communion meaningful.

After conducting our research, all of us reported our findings back to the group. We then let the stories and experiences we gathered help shape our practice of communion. The specific findings from our data gathering are not important for this blog post [though worthwhile and worthy of another post]. But the process by which we collectively tackled a principal, but contentious, element of being a church body is significant. For it encouraged us to take each other’s experiences and perspectives—as well as the experiences and perspectives of people we loved and cared about—seriously. Once we heard everyone’s stories, it became impossible for one single person’s discernment to override anybody else’s. The prospect of making executive decisions that prioritized certain opinions or experiences over others did not make sense.

Perhaps the most important feature of our research and discernment process was the fact that it took communion down off of its pedestal. As a collective, we refused to view the sacrament as an untouchable, sacred object that could not be questioned, examined, and changed. When considering whether/how we would engage communion in our new faith community, we did not allow ourselves to feel strictly bound by the inherited practices of the ritual. Instead, we privileged people’s real-life, actual experiences around the communion table. Because those experiences mattered deeply to us, we used them to help shape the ways in which we celebrated one of the church’s oldest orienting rituals.

For me, our process of collectively reflecting on communion embodied the most significant aspects of the communion ritual. At its best, communion “fixes” us, as in orienting our attention, around a common table with all of our diversity and passionate differences. And when practiced on a regular basis, it set in us a pattern and habit of coming together as a collective—a body in which all are valued and have a say in how to communally live into good news.

Furthermore, the practice of the process was, in and of itself, good news. It made real a way of being in the world that challenges dominant culture, with its emphasis upon hierarchy and top-down decision-making. Through the process, my friends and I demonstrated that we valued one another’s experiences and perspectives. By developing a discernment process that took everyone into account, we did more than simply talk about caring for one another. Instead, we lived out our mutual commitment through our actions . . . which also happened to open us up to the novel things that the Spirit was doing, as She breathed life into our newly-imagined body of faith.

So, what shape did our communion practice end up taking? Many. Exactly how we gathered and shared a meal at the communion table often depended on how the spirit was blowing on any given day. But one thing was constant: we always did our best to avoid communion practices and language that revolved around violence and the cause of pain.

Ever since my friend told me about her broken body and spilt blood, I’ve never looked at communion in the same way. Her story matters—indeed, all of ours do and should make a difference to the body.


Xochitl Alvizo, loves all things feminist, womanist, and decolonialista. She often finds herself on the boundary of different social and cultural contexts, and works hard to develop her voice and to hear and encourage the voice of others. Her work is inspired by the conviction that all people are inextricably connected and what we do, down to the smallest thing, matters; it makes a difference for good or for ill. She teaches in the area of Women and Religion, and the Philosophy of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality, at California State University, Northridge. She lives in Los Angeles, CA where she was also born and raised.

Author: Xochitl Alvizo

Feminist theologian, Christian identified. Associate Professor of Religious Studies in the area of Women and Religion and the Philosophy of Sex Gender and Sexuality at California State University, Northridge. Her research is focused in Congregational Studies, Feminist and Quuer Theologies, and Ecclesiology specifically. Often finding herself on the boundary of different social and cultural contexts, she works hard to develop her voice and to hear and encourage the voice of others. Her work is inspired by the conviction that all people are inextricably connected and the good one can do in any one area inevitably and positively impacts all others.

8 thoughts on “Re-imagining the Ritual of Communion by Xochitl Alvizo”

  1. I was really moved by reading this. It strikes me that one of the purposes of rituals is the coming together and healing of people and of community. What I see is that by opening your lenses you were able to transform one of those ceremonies into something needed, cherished and available to the community. What a wonderful template this is. Thank you.

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  2. Love this essay, Xochitl. Found this sentence meaningful: “…we did not allow ourselves to feel strictly bound by the inherited practices of the ritual.” Going beyond or outside tradition is necessary to create meaning for us in the “here and now.” So many rituals in our churches, synagogues, mosques, and temples feel inappropriate for the reality of people’s lives.

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  3. A variation in the Unitarian Universalist tradition that I treasure is the flower communion, where everyone brings a flower to the service, they are all blessed, and we each take a flower from the bouquet to take home with us. I think it’s a lovely and positive alternative to the bloody and patriarchal image of consuming another’s body.


  4. Finding new ways to perceive of situations, even those with heavy emotions involved, is so important and your post is a wonderful model. I’m so glad you are sharing the process you went through because so often we forget that many times the process can be the product, as they say. Thank you for sharing this. I would love for you to write a post about your results, too! Your post also makes me think of how at almost any goddess-focused ceremony I’ve gone to, sharing food is part of the event. Though I’ve never known this sharing at goddess ceremonies to be called “communion,” it would be a wonderful name since there is something about sharing food that binds people together in a very deep way.

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  5. I just listened to Chastity Jones’ podcast SpiritualiTEA with Chasity, Memoirs of a Cult Survivor last night, (first posted on FAR some months ago). It struck me that the process you used with your group to explore and determine a path forward around communion was (rightly so!) in direct opposition with some of the 6 ways that Cults control and manipulate their victims. (No unaccountable central authority, rather individual feelings and thoughts and group experiences are taken into consideration…) Brava!

    It seems to me that whatever you and the group do going forward will be meaningful and wonderful for all involved.


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  6. Oh the first thought i had reading this post is that Democracy is still real and true – and you have moved me so deeply by such heartfelt writing and the profound respect you have for all of us. You are a remarkable woman and writer and reading your posts offers me hope. Thank you dear friend


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