Internal Strife – External Conflict by Oxana Poberejnaia


As Po said in “Kung Fu Panda”: “I’m gonna get myself some Inner Peace… Inner piece of what?”

This basically lays out a path of spiritual work for most of us. We aim for peace, yet somehow we feel that we must do something in order to achieve it – rather than just be peaceful.

Another joke that captures this paradox perfectly is:

“My son started doing meditation. Well, that’s something. At least he’s not sitting around doing nothing.”

Sitting around doing nothing seems to be the worst sin in our society. Buddhism is quite radical in this regard. The path to Enlightenment leads through sitting around and doing nothing. Anything and everything else that we do to keep ourselves busy is determined by society, hence impermanent, hence not the truth.

Look at how a renowned Tharavadin monk Ajahn Chan explains the apparent contrast between the truth, nirvana, and the conditioned world. Ajahn Chan also points at our preference for busyness rather than quietude.

Where there is no abiding, that’s where there’s emptiness, and, to put it bluntly, we say that Nirvana is this emptiness. People hear this and they back up a bit, they don’t want to go. They’re afraid they won’t see their children or relatives.

 This is why, when we bless the laypeople, we say “May you have long life, beauty, happiness and strength.” This makes them really happy, “Sadhu!” [it is well] they all say. They like these things. If you start talking about emptiness they don’t want it, they’re attached to abiding.

This need to be busy creates a tension in us, which drives us away from peace. This internal strife expresses itself in negative attitude towards oneself: “Oh, I am so lazy.” “Look, I have not achieved anything today.”

More often than not, when a woman says such things in our society, it actually means that the women have done quite a lot. It is just that usually women’s work is not valued in patriarchy.

Yet, for two reasons we drive ourselves to exhaustion and set ourselves up for failure in trying to “do” rather than to “be.” The first reason is that we have internalised patriarchal values. The second reason is that, from a Buddhist point of view, we have not “given peace a chance,” as John Lennon would have wanted us to.

This is how Ajaan Suwat Suvaco describes peace and the path to it.

Peace means letting go of mental objects so that nothing comes in to disturb the mind. All that’s left is a nature devoid of fabrication. Even the nibbana we want to reach is nothing other than a peace not fabricated by conditions. As for the peace we develop through various techniques by which the mind gathers into concentration, or gathers into stillness, that’s the peace of the mind gathering in. It stops fabricating. It stops holding onto the aggregates.

Usually, we choose clinging to mental objects rather than seeking peace. We have not let our busy self meet and greet our peaceful self. We have not quite come to terms with the fact that doing nothing lies at the foundation of our being, encompassing and supporting our activities: mental, verbal and physical.

These two factors go hand in hand of course and reinforce each other. Since we value our active selves and despise our inactive selves. Since we praise ourselves for having done stuff and tell ourselves off for not having done stuff, we project these values outward. Thus our internal strife becomes an external conflict.

This is how the famous dichotomy of patriarchy, the male/female, active/passive is enhanced. This dichotomy is not universal because it is true, but because patriarchy is universal.

We start praising people: women and men, who are active, pushy and sometimes aggressive. And we look down upon men and women who are quieter, and who do not seem to achieve much. Thus we support patriarchal values.

Oxana Poberejnaia is a frame drummer, writer and an artist at http://poeticoxana.wordpress.com. She was an Officer of the University of Manchester Buddhist Society while studying for a PhD in Government, and had been involved in organising the Manchester Buddhist Convention. Oxana is exploring the Sacred Feminine through frame drumming, working with her menstrual cycle, and shamanic journeying, while keeping the practice of Buddhist meditation. Her frame drum band can be found here.

Advertisements


Categories: Buddhism, Feminism, Feminism and Religion, Identity Construction, Men and Feminism, Patriarchy, Spiritual Journey

Tags: , , , ,

6 replies

  1. Thanks Oxana, I always feel inspired by your posts. FAR has too few eastern spirituality teachers, but you are an exceedingly awake and aware guide as regards the Buddhist path, thank you so much.

    A very fine woman Zen Master named Konin Cardenas, has a fabulous webpage of Zen Tweets at Twitter so I linked my name here to her twitter site — have a look, I think you’ll love it. Here’s one of Konin’s Zen tweets —priceless —

    “Myoshin: It’s not the flag moving. It’s not the wind moving. It’s not the mind moving. Konin: Not one thing happens by itself. Study this.”

    Like

  2. “Yet, for two reasons we drive ourselves to exhaustion and set ourselves up for failure in trying to “do” rather than to “be.” The first reason is that we have internalised patriarchal values. The second reason is that, from a Buddhist point of view, we have not “given peace a chance,” as John Lennon would have wanted us to.” These wise words capture the core of the problem. Thank you.

    Like

  3. Thanks for this post. John Lennon sure was right.

    I “sit around and do nothing” twice a day. The first time is after breakfast and before I come back to my computer to start the day’s editing. I guess what I do for about 20 minutes is a kind of mindfulness meditation. When I finish editing in the afternoon, I also sit around and do nothing, except this time it’s actually reading with my eyes closed. Both of these “nothings” bring me peace.

    Like

  4. Thanks Oxana. Our world is so full of enticements to fill our emptiness. I wonder if that’s one of the reasons Trump is popular – he offers a “fill up” of ego, self interest, and some excitement.
    I suspect most, if not all of the major religions, teach that emptiness is valuable, and it’s waiting for a seed to become fertile. What kind of “seed” however, will we choose – the kind that grows into a thorny, cannibalistic plant or the kind that nourishes peace and compassion.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Wise words, Oxana. I too have berated myself for being lazy, until someone pointed out to me that at the time I was working 3 jobs, so I certainly wasn’t lazy! Now I am “retired” at age 59 and my mother lives with me, so really I’m a full-time caregiver. However, when people ask what I do and I tell them I am retired they look at me strangely, even when they know I am my mother’s caregiver. It seems that I am not valued as a person because I am not “doing” anything in their eyes. While I am blessed to have my mother with me, being a caregiver can be stressful. Fortunately I’ve learned the value of going for walks in the woods behind my home. Partway through my walk I stop at a sacred space I’ve set up at the edge of my property. There I feed the birds and squirrels and watch them. I pray and meditate, but often end up dozing off. Really I am “being” and it gives me so much peace!

    Like

Please familiarize yourself with our Comment Policy before posting.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: