I’ve been thinking a lot about something my grandmother would always tell me: “When life hands you lemons, sometimes you have to make applesauce.” I know, it sounds crazy, but life right now appears to be more on the crazy than the sane side.
We’re all in a state of uncertainty right now. The news is scary. Twitter is scary. Heck, even TikTok is losing parts of its humor. Everywhere we seem to turn, it’s more information about COVID-19, new cases, new lockdowns, and new things that we shouldn’t do for the foreseeable future.
During these difficult times, people turn to their community to help get them through. However, what does community look like when it’s forced online and the things that we rely on the most (hugs, high fives, and being within 6’ of each other) are no longer possible?
I’ve written a lot about the LGBTQ community and people that create their own community in the absence of our normally defined bonds that bring people together. Specifically, if there is one thing that I find amazing about people during times of disaster is how we often take lemons and turn them into applesauce. Even when we think that we have all the ingredients to get the outcome we need, life has a delicate way of reminding us that sometimes we have to roll with the punches and be ok with an outcome we never expected (read: applesauce).
My community right now has been my work, my activism, being a leader (albeit from my home) for the organizations I currently am at the helm for, and my friends. As a person who has suffered from asthma my entire life, it’s become quite an obstacle to not be able to go outside and to remain isolated out of fear for my actual life.
While it may be scary, life must go on and we must fight for the causes (and people) we cared about and fought for pre-COVID-19. We must not forget that President Trump knew about how much of a pandemic COVID-19 would become in January and didn’t want to alarm the public out of fear it would hurt his election chances. While he had blood on his hands before, he now has to deal with an actual pandemic where he will prioritize his re-election chances over the lives of our grandparents and those that are at high risk for COVID-19.
I don’t want to remind people about the atrocities our country (and the world) have faced under President Trump. Although we’re in a global pandemic, that doesn’t mean that we can forget about the men, women, and children being held in cages at the border. We cannot forget about people impacted by the justice system, people being incarcerated and imprisoned, people experiencing homelessness, students who now taking classes online and many who won’t get to experience graduation ceremonies and gathering with their friends and families to celebrate their incredible accomplishments. Most importantly, we cannot forget to stop fighting for each other.
While I’ve never been much of a prayerful person, I’ve found myself listening more and more to the advice my grandmother gave me and taking these lemons and turning them into applesauce.
I urge you all to do the same thing during this stressful time. I urge you all to keep sending letters to your elected officials pressing them to keep fighting for the right causes no matter what is happening in the world. I urge you all to keep attending meetings (albeit via Zoom) with your friends and organizations to make sure the fight doesn’t stop and I urge you all to never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it.
And last, but certainly not least, wash your hands and stay home.
John Erickson holds a Ph.D. in American Religious History as well as two MA’s from Claremont Graduate University. John served as a commissioner on the California Commission on the Status of Women. He is President of the Hollywood Chapter for the National Organization for Women, a Planning Commissioner for the City of West Hollywood, President of the Board for the ACLU of Southern California, the Legislative Action Chair for Stonewall Democratic Club, and a board member for the National Organization for Women.
5 thoughts on “When Life Hands You Lemons… by John Erickson”
We need to do the best with what we have, and conserve TP! Lol
John, bravo! Excellent post, especially that you remember your grandmother. Yes, indeed, we need all the applesauce we can get nowadays. We’ve got plenty of lemons, especially the almost totally dysfunctional government in Washington, D.C.–let’s grind all those guys up and add appropriate spices like kindness and efficiency, and turn them into applesauce.
Thanks for writing as cheerfully as you could today. Yes, let’s all stay home and read good novels or watch DVDs of shows we love. And stay safe and comfortable.
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Thanks for sharing your grandmother’s wisdom. Applesauce coming right up!
Reading articles you write John are like a breath of fresh air… Like you, I too am at high risk and have to travel… It is important that everyone knows that Trump SUPPRESSED this pandemic – and we must do what we can to support one another and get that news out – it might help defeat him… However, there is more – scientists have known about this threat since 2015 and written/ PUBLISHED papers (2017). They were ignored as were the Climatologists who have been telling us that with Climate Change pandemics were going to be an escalating threat – No one has been listening and so culpability belongs to the people as well. We cannot continue to destroy our planet in such egregious ways without consequences…. what about the billions of animals? – not to mention trees – they count too. And just now in isolation the latter comprise my community.
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Applesauce would be quite an upgrade for the miscreant in chief
I propose compost