Dancing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation – Part One By Laura Shannon

Armenian Candle Dance with Laura Shannon, Findhorn 2015 (photo: Hugo Klip)
When I first began researching traditional circle dances in the mid-1980s, I was amazed to find that the peoples who have suffered the worst of human experience – oppression, exile, genocide, war – also produce the most vibrant and joyful music and dance. Armenian, Jewish, Kurdish, and Romani (Gypsy) dances, in particular, were passionate affirmations of life, despite the horrors these peoples have gone through in their history. The dances seemed to hold clues to the mystery of moving on with life after trauma.
This was something I was desperate to learn how to do. Barely 20 at the time, I was struggling to keep my dignity and optimism while growing up female in a woman-hating world. The trauma of a violent rape on my 18th birthday had robbed me of my joy for life – but I could experience joy again in those dances.
Early on in my research and teaching, therefore, alongside the women’s dances which were always my main interest, I began to focus on the traditional dances of persecuted peoples, which I called Dances of Exile and Homecoming. These songs and dances seemed to have an inherently therapeutic potential, profoundly moving for people from any background and any culture.

The dances were not only joyful. There were also powerful songs and ritual dances touching on universal human experiences of grief, loss and longing. My training in Dance Movement Therapy helped me see them as containers for traumatic experiences to be safely held, witnessed, shared, and eventually healed: not ‘healed’ as if the trauma had never happened, but healed enough to make the trauma bearable and for life to go on with joy and purpose. This also began to happen for me. It felt like a miracle.
I see Eastern European circle dances as direct descendants of the original civilisations of Neolithic Old Europe, egalitarian societies of peace which lasted thousands of years, according to archaeologist Marija Gimbutas. Modern-day egalitarian matriarchal cultures (brought to our attention by Heide Göttner Abendroth,  Peggy Reeves Sanday, and Carol P. Christ) honour mothers and the mothering principle, teaching men and women alike to use their strength to nurture the vulnerable.
Traditional circle dances also embody this mothering principle. When we dance them, we are practicing peaceful and mutually supportive ways of being together in community. Thus we learn the egalitarian values of Old Europe, handed down through the living lineage of the circle dance.
Mairam Govand, Armenian candle dance with Laura Shannon and the Findhorn Sacred Dance Group at the Findhorn Community Winter Gathering.                                       Photo: Findhorn Community.


To return to my story: in my early years of teaching in Europe and North America, I began sharing Jewish, Romani, and Armenian dances with groups in Germany, as conscious acts of reconciliation and healing. In time, I offered these dance rituals all over Germany, then all over Europe, then all over the world.
The late 1980s and early 1990s – with the fall of the Iron Curtain (1989), the opening up of the Eastern bloc, and German reunification – were a time of collective reckoning and tremendous discussion of the Third Reich, the Holocaust and WWII. In that time before the internet, many events had been covered up, and much suffering had been silenced. Not even 50 years had passed since the war.
Most of the women at my dance events had been born shortly before, during, or after the war, and carried both their own individual cellular memory, and also the inherited epigenetic family memory, of terrible trauma. As adults, many felt burdened by a sense of collective guilt for ‘German’ actions in both world wars, even though they themselves were not responsible for those atrocities, and, as children, they too had suffered unspeakably.
There was a feeling that even with all the talk, the past could not be healed. Exhausted and broken-hearted, people could not countenance what had been done ‘in their names’ but did not know what to say or how to make amends. For these German women, dancing Jewish and Romani dances (often in churches) provided a nonverbal bridge to cross this chasm. In dance we could come closer to one another and to our own emotions, and to historical themes and events which had felt unapproachable, simply witnessing them  – and ourselves and each other – with compassion and love.
Buddhist teacher Tara Brach describes how many people, especially women, commonly struggle with a deep-rooted and often unconscious conviction of being deficient, unworthy, not good enough as we are. She describes how ‘out of fear, we turn on ourselves and make ourselves the enemy’, but also how we ‘project these feelings outward and make others the enemy’. My journey of healing from rape had shown me how important it was not to lose myself in anger and blame, either towards myself or towards the perpetrator. I needed to acknowledge my feelings without being destroyed by them. I needed to not make ‘all men’ my enemy.
Laura Shannon and dancers in an Armenian candle dance, Lebensgarten, Steyerberg. Photo: Monika Hoy
Our danced rituals of reconciliation also sought to move beyond anger and blame, to transcend stark categories of victim and perpetrator, ‘us’ and ‘them’, and to cultivate compassion for everyone affected by trauma and war.
The dance circle provided a safe space for this work. I think people trusted me to facilitate these rituals because I was neither Jewish nor German, and did not obviously favour ‘one side’ over the other. Instead, we were all standing on the side of reconciliation and peace. Rather than blaming ‘all Germans’, I tried to bring an open heart and compassionate gaze to the suffering of all children traumatised by war, and to the hundreds of thousands, even millions, of women who were brutally raped as one or another army surged across the ever-changing lines of the front. We danced to acknowledge our shared legacy of suffering, to witness everyone’s wounds, and to pray for everyone’s healing.
I am writing about this now, after so many years, because the fatal dynamic of ‘enemy’ and ‘ally’, ‘us’ and ‘them’ has become dangerously active again in our present time. Dancing together is just one of the ways we can come together in forgiveness and reconciliation, and create peace instead of war.
To be continued…

Laura Shannon has been researching and teaching traditional women’s ritual dances since 1987, and is considered one of the ‘grandmothers’ of the worldwide Sacred / Circle Dance movement. She trained in Intercultural Studies (1986) and Dance Movement Therapy (1990), and holds the M.A. in Myth, Cosmology, and the Sacred at Canterbury Christ Church University in England. Her primary research in Balkan and Greek villages seeks out songs, dances, rituals and textile patterns which descend from the Goddess cultures of Neolithic Old Europe, and which embody an ancient worldview of sustainability, community, and reverence for the earth. In 2018 Laura was chosen as an Honorary Lifetime Member of the Sacred Dance Guild in recognition of her ‘significant and lasting contribution to dance as a sacred art’. Her articles and essays on women’s ritual dances have appeared in numerous publications, including Re-Enchanting the AcademyDancing on the Earth: Women’s Stories of Healing Through DanceShe Rises! Vol. 2Inanna’s AscentRevisioning Medusa, and Spiritual Herstories – Call of the Soul in Dance Research. Laura is also Founding Director of the non-profit Athena Institute for Women’s Dance and Culture. She lives in Canterbury, Greece, and the Findhorn community in Scotland.

Author: Laura Shannon

Laura Shannon has been researching and teaching traditional women’s ritual dances since 1987. She is considered one of the ‘grandmothers’ of the worldwide Sacred / Circle Dance movement and gives workshops in over twenty countries worldwide. Laura holds an honours degree in Intercultural Studies (1986) and a diploma in Dance Movement Therapy (1990). She has also dedicated much time to primary research in Balkan and Greek villages, learning songs, dances, rituals and textile patterns which have been passed down for many generations, and which embody an age-old worldview of sustainability, community, and reverence for the earth. Laura’s essay ‘Women’s Ritual Dances: An Ancient Source of Healing in Our Times’, was published in Dancing on the Earth. Also a musician, Laura performs throughout Europe and in the USA with her partner Kostantis Kourmadias.

10 thoughts on “Dancing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation – Part One By Laura Shannon”

  1. I love the way you qualify healing… “not ‘healed’ as if the trauma had never happened, but healed enough to make the trauma bearable and for life to go on with joy and purpose.” This qualification doesn’t set a person up for disappointment…and circle dances are incredibly powerful collective healing experiences. It doesn’t surprise me that so many cultures participated…. Today with the Great Divide looming over us it is so critical to acknowledge the powers of projection with respect to the enemy. Right now I am engaged in my own healing process – healing from the trauma of a monster’s reign – I say monster because t remains the monster that oppressed me spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, for the last four years….Unable to deal with his atrocities I was eventually forced to withdraw completely from the political conversation in order to survive. Now I am free again, and feeling my rage even as I continue to have rape dreams – rape of my voice as well as my body – rape of my spiritual self – rape and more rape. In time, I will move through this process into a place of acceptance but right now I need to feel my feelings in order to reach a point of acceptance and I give myself all the time I need to complete this process…

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    1. Thank you for your comment, Sarah. I wish you all the best with your healing process and hope you can receive all the support you need. We have all indeed been through a traumatic four years. I completely understand how, as you so beautifully put it, ‘right now I need to feel my feelings in order to reach a point of acceptance and I give myself all the time I need to complete this process…’ this is true for all of us. I think this is an essential aspect of healing through circle dance, dance movement therapy and other body-based healing processes: witnessing our authentic selves and true feelings, and allowing change to unfold in its own time. Good luck.


  2. Thank you for another of your beautiful posts about using dance for reconciliation and healing. Oh that process of finding joy in the face of violence and trauma! I, too, was violently raped at a youngish age (early 20s) but that didn’t take away any sense of joy for me as I had been a child of violence already.

    I’m sorry that you had to endure such a trauma. I love, though, how you have turned it to triumph, healing and community . .. and yes dance. That is so interesting about those who have suffered the worst oppression creating the most vibrant dance. Although as I have often said to people, my pathway to spirituality in life (abuse and rape) is not one I would recommend, it has indeed led me to some wonderful places and amazing people I would not have otherwise done or met.

    Thank you for sharing your work. I look forward to Part 2.

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    1. Thank you for sharing, Janet. I am so sorry for what happened to you, too, as a child and a young woman. We are so many.

      I honour your ability to ultimately see your history of abuse and rape as a ‘pathway to spirituality in life’. What a source of wisdom and healing. Like you, I have found that these terrible experiences ‘led me to some wonderful places and amazing people I would not have otherwise done or met’ and am grateful for the life lessons learned even through trauma.

      Blessings to you on your healing journey.


  3. What a beautiful post. Thank you. I’m so sorry for all that has happened to you in the past. I have been thinking a lot lately about how we, as a planetary community, are going to heal from the trauma of the past year – the pandemic, the environmental disasters, political unrest and uncertainty, and the poverty and grief that has come with all these things. Dance is a perfect vehicle — maybe we will have communal dances happening all over the world someday to help us all heal. I also look forward to part 2.

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    1. Thanks, Carolyn. Yes, so much collective trauma to heal from – and with the pandemic we can’t even join hands and dance as freely and easily as we could before! But the intention to heal, if it is there, will find an expression, I believe this with all my heart. And I believe in the power of ritual and prayer to bring sacred balance back into the world. Even if I am alone with my prayers instead of in a circle holding hands to dance, I feel a kinship with the countless others on our planet Earth who must also be engaged in ritual and prayer for peace at the same moment, wherever they may be…


  4. In 2015 I attended a village wedding in Molivos Lesbos. Our community was torn apart by the refugee crisis with many of my neighbors showing little compassion for the refugees. I wondered how it would feel to be with them at the reception. We came together in the dancing even if momentarily.


  5. Dear Laura,
    I am grateful thatShakeh sent me your
    Very Beautiful and powerful article.i read with pleasure,and enjoyed it
    a lot……I am looking forward to see you sometime in near future
    Wishing you all the best in this confusing! And not a very good times!
    Look after yourself,


    1. Dear Anoosh,
      I am so glad you found your way to this article and left your comment! Many thanks for your kind and appreciative words. You are right, these times are confusing and frankly ‘not very good’ – as always, you tell it like it is! – but I want you to know that whatever resilience in my spirit is helping me get through the present difficulties has partly been forged by my experience of Armenian dance and culture. You know how much I admire the strength, character, nobility, sensitivity, sophistication and endurance of the Armenian soul, and how fortunate I feel to have been able to learn through proximity to and observation of the worldwide Armenian community over all these years. I hope that all of these special qualities can come forth now to help the Armenian people through the terrible new trauma of the recent war and the loss of Artsakh. Our thoughts and prayers are with you daily.
      Please take good care of yourself too!
      xx, L.


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